BDSM Database

https://discord.gg/bPh6G2vF7x welcome to ・the House・ the official community server for the BDSM database W/we aim to be a wholesome, welcoming space for A/all in the lifestyle, from kinksters to the far end of power exchange, from T/those just starting on the journey to T/those with decades of experience. ・18+ photo verification  ・server-wide house/manor theme ・tons of self-selectable roles ・weekly discussions  ・monthly fun activities  ・a variety of forum discussion channels ・a library of resources, both on-site and within the server  ・private discussion rooms for D-types, switches, and s-types  ・leveling systems with unlockable channels ・mentorship offered ・(future) classes taught in-server ・and much, much more.

https://xcbdsm.com/educational-offerings/handouts-and-resources/sub-training/ Submissive Training, Conditioning, and Development by Cross http://www.XCBDSM.com XCBDSM@gmail.com The World According To Cross The ideas, theories, and crazy schemes presented herein are the sole perspective and opinion of the presenter, who encourages attendees and readers to seek out other perspectives and ideas, especially those that disagree with him, before deciding on a path for themselves. Cross is not an “expert” of any kind related to this practice and does not guarantee any particular result from its use. Play at your own risk profile. Human Psychology I have spent a lot of years on the academic side of brain study. This resource is part human psychology and personal study to help you understand some of the forces that are at work every day in your lives and the ways that you are training the people you spend time with, whether you know it or not, so that you can start to make those decisions in a ...

http://www.thecivilizedengineer.com/2016/01/family-meeting-agenda-details.html?m=1 http://www.thecivilizedengineer.com/2016/01/family-meeting-hardware.html?m=1 http://www.thecivilizedengineer.com/2016/02/what-heck-is-zone-anyway.html?m=1 Family Meeting Agenda Details I posted recently about the how critical our family meeting is to the smooth (er) operation of our family and home. Just in case I convinced anyone to start this powerful habit, I thought I'd share a little more of the nuts and bolts of how we run our family meetings. First, a simplified version of our weekly agenda: For people less prone to using an agenda than me (possibly every one?), let me try to make an argument for it. The idea behind any list I make is to get the information out of my head and in to a safe and reliable place where I can access it later. An agenda ensures that every thing is addressed without needing to spend half of my mental energy trying to remember what comes next. But an agenda should b...

https://blog.kinkly.com/10-helpful-tips-for-hosting-a-bdsm-munch/ A BDSM "munch" is a non-sexual gathering of people in a BDSM community. BDSM munches can be great venues for meeting and getting to know other kinksters in your area. You can chat openly, get advice from experienced mentors, and meet potential play partners in a neutral public setting. However, unless your city has a bustling kink scene, you may find munches are hard to come by. This was the case when I first moved to Osaka in 2009. There were a handful of BDSM-themed bars, clubs, and events in the area, but these forums were fairly expensive to enter and intimidating for kinksters who were just getting their feet wet. I didn't want to spend tons of cash and time in smoky Japanese bars just to connect with "my people." My kink-interested friends didn't either. So, I started organizing the city's only munch about two years ago. Since then, I've met and chatted with countless kinksters a...

https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/why-basic-d-s-is-the-best-foundation/ Today’s Lesson: Why straight-forward, down-to-earth D/s makes for the best foundation in all cases of the many D/s variants. We hear a lot about DD/lg, Pet Play, and Brat Play / Resistance Play relationships as some kind of Core Identity for that relationship, and yet these kinds of relationships near-constantly hit a wall. The idea of these specific Kinks, while obviously great fun for the participants, needs to be modified if the two people are seeking longevity together. As someone who counsels BDSM couples professionally I hear about a lot of failures in this regard. What my partner and I have found in all cases of the common reasons these types of D/s-Variant Relationships fail is because they treat the particular Kink – e.g. Pet Play, Brat Play, DD/lg, etc – as the Base Foundation upon which to build the relationship, instead of building their favorite Kink ON TOP OF a solid, well-established set of D/...