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https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/why-would-someone-want-to-be-dominant/ Power is a powerful thing in this world. When you look at the people who hold power, you see that they are able to get whatever they want, whenever they want. People who are in control of companies, for example, are able to change the course of their employees by simply giving a directive or changing a rule. When they do, they see that they are the ones that are calling the shots – and it’s no different in the bedroom. To a certain extent, we all like power. We all like to get what we want, when we want it. Even if we’re not interested in pursuing that feeling in the bedroom, who hasn’t, at least once, thought about making someone else listen to them because they have something to say? Dominants like to have power because it helps them be in complete control over another person, even if it’s just in the bedroom or it’s just for a short period of time. They don’t have to be questioned by anyone else, and they can do ...

https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/credentials-or-how-to-screen-a-dom/ Let me start by saying that I pushed this question to the head of the list because I have been suddenly inundated in the last few weeks by various submissives asking this exact same question. It’s as though astrologically speaking some planetary alignment has given rise to this question in the minds of many all at once! So my apologies to those who are still waiting for their questions to be answered who may have sent them in several weeks ago, but I felt this question had a certain immediacy to it that needed addressing. I will get to all your questions. 🙂 Let me also say that what I am about to tell you is Just My Opinion. I have quite a few Male Dom friends who may have completely different advice on this one particular question, and if you happen to know others in this regard, by all means compare and contrast what I have to say on this subject with what they have to say, and locate the Common Points. Thi...

https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/ Many have heard the term, “Topping from the Bottom.” A variety of definitions have arisen in regards to this fairly straight-forward concept, but not all the definitions agree on When, Where, and How this term becomes an accurate description of what is occurring. Most people perceive this idea as completely negative, while others appear to find the idea palatable on very specific occasions, and with good reason. In this lesson we will explore the various definitions of “Topping from the Bottom,” and how – in fact – each definition contains a kernel of truth. It all depends on the context of what is happening to determine if the occurrence of “Topping from the Bottom” is positive or negative. Enjoy. Traditionally, “Topping from the Bottom” (hereafter TFTB) was used negatively to describe a situation of completely inappropriate behavior on the part of the Bottom or Submissive. Moments when the...

https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/dispelling-nonsense-in-the-bdsm-community/ When a newcomer enters the BDSM Community with sound knowledge they are setting off on a journey that is likely to be a profound adventure in their life, and hopefully an exciting one that they continue for many years. A set of basic, time-tested principles, a healthy set of personal ethics, and a positive attitude can go a very long way. Concurrently, an emphasis on knowing oneself and seeking what works for you personally is also key to establishing one’s greatest joy within BDSM. Nonetheless, eventually most people who really explore the knowledge base available will encounter several attitudes and awkward notions that will be presented to them as “universal truths.” In some cases it will be easy to discern that the “truth” which is being discussed is simply an individual Style of BDSM. In other cases however, behind the disguise of said “truth,” what is actually being pushed is far less a matter of ...